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No Out There : On My Journey The Wooden Bowl

The Wooden Bowl

Posted on May 20th, 2008 by No Out There : On My Journey No Out There

My friend Lynne was on a roll - wasn't she? and no she didn't write them, doesn't know who the author is nor who originally sent them to her.

I guarantee you will remember the tale of the Wooden Bowl tomorrow, a week from now, a month from now, a year from now.

A frail old man went to live with his son, daughter-in-law, and four-year old grandson. The old man's hands trembled, his eyesight was blurred, and his step faltered. The family ate together at the table.  But the elderly grandfather's shaky hands and failing sight made eating difficult. Peas rolled off his spoon onto the floor. When he grasped the glass, milk spilled on the tablecloth.

The son and daughter-in-law became irritated with the mess. "We must do something about father," said the son. "I've had enough of his spilled milk, noisy eating, and food on the floor." So the husband and wife set a small table in the corner. There, Grandfather ate alone while the rest of the family enjoyed dinner. Since Grandfather had broken a dish or two, his food was served in a wooden bowl! 

 When the family glanced in Grandfather's direction, sometime he had a tear in his eye as he sat alone. Still, the only words the couple had for him were sharp admonitions when he dropped a fork or spilled food.  The four-year-old watched it all in silence.

One evening before supper, the father noticed his son playing with wood scraps on the floor. He asked the child sweetly, "What are you making?" Just as sweetly, the boy responded, "Oh, I am making a little bowl for you and Mama to eat your food in when I grow up." The four-year-old smiled and went back to work.

The words so struck the parents so that they were speechless. Then tears started to stream down their cheeks. Though no word was spoken, both knew what must be done.  That evening the husband took Grandfather's hand and gently led him back to the family table. For the remainder of his days he ate every meal with the family. And for some reason, neither husband nor wife seemed to care any longer when a fork was dropped, milk spilled, or the tablecloth soiled.

On a positive note, I've learned that, no matter what happens, how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow.

I've learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles four things: a rainy day, the elderly, lost luggage, and tangled Chris tmas tree lights.

I've earned that, regardless of your relationship with your parents, you'll miss them when they're gone from your life. I've learned that making a "living" is not the same thing as making a "life."

I've learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance.  I've learned that you shouldn't go through life with a catcher's mitt on both hands. You need to be able to throw something back.

I've learned that if you pursue happiness, it will elude you, but if you focus on your family, your friends, the needs of others, your work and doing the very best you can, happiness will find you.

I've learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision.

I've learned that even when I have pains, I don't have to be one.

I've learned that every day, you should reach out and touch someone.  People love that human touch -- holding hands, a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back.

I've learned that I still have a lot to learn!

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debyemm : Tree Hugging Dirt Worshiper
7 days later
debyemm said

Your story brings back sweet memories for me of my FIL who died in Nov.  I watched him decline similarly.  However, our response to him was patient and kind and he was ALWAYS at the head of our family table until the very last few days when he did not eat or leave the bed.  My MIL was not so kind.  Unfortunately, she really didn't get that he was dying until almost the end and barely then.  She was very hard on him and more than once we had to talk to her about it, had to hire help to care for him as she would not, had to buy food for him when she tried to withhold it out of anger.

Fortunately, the damage to their life long good marriage that was done by his brain tumor is being erased by the most beautiful dreams of healing he brings to her many nights.  It is love as I know true because I heard it in the story time we had on their last anniversary which occured in my MILs hospital room as she was being treated for MRSV.

You are correct about the 4 things that speak volumes about a person.  I am glad we passed at least one test. 

I also know personally about second chances.  I lost the opportunity to raise my daughter at age 3 when her dad remarried a woman with a child and I believed it good to have family and siblings over a single mom.  I still believe I made the right decision and probably more importantly, she does too.  Yet, life provided me the opportunity to have a second marriage and 2 beautiful boys who I am now raising.

Thank you for reaching out to me.

Deborah

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